HOLD YOURSELF : The art of self love

"Can't trust no one else to do what you won't do for yourself."

You are responsible for who you become,love yourself,like your speed , leave your scars,live your skills! Self love is essential for a worthy living.It influences your overall undertakings, from mate you pick, to how you cope with the problems of life.

Now you gotta know what is self love? Is it something you can obtain through a beauty makeover,or a lavish lifestyle? Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational ?Or can a new relationship make you love yourself more? Simply the answer is NO!These stuffs sound gratifying ,but you cannot grow in self love ,through these.It's easy to be loving towards yourself when things go as you have planned , when you succeed  and when people like you.But when stuff falls apart, we experience failures or get rejected, we tend to be hardest on ourselves.In those moments, we may think people will criticize , judge and berate you, but instead of being hard on yourself offer yourself kindness,compassion and accept your flaws.
It's okay to not be okay all times.Life is full of ups and downs.Your health can transfer into disease,success can be turned into collapses,romantic love can be transformed into coldness.But no matter what happens on the outside, you can still have a solid foundation built on "Self-love".
PAUSE.LOVE YOUSELF.MOVE ON.

Become mindful : People who practice self-love tend to know what they feel ,think and want.They are mindful and well aware of who they are and act on this knowledge ,rather than on what others want for them.

Protect yourself : Bring the right people into your life. Be aware of frenemies! They take pleasure in your pain and loss, rather than in your success and happiness.Get rid of them! You don't have enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the spark of your life.Start observing people and then make friends.The world is cruel ,but you can protect yourself.

Practice good self-care : You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your needs.You need to nourish yourself daily through healthy activities like, sound nutrition , excercise,proper sleep,intimacy and healthy social interactions.

Be kind to yourself : Sometimes we may experience failures,but it does not means that you should be hard on yourself.You need to accept your humanness,before you can truly love yourself.Practice being less hard on yourself  when things go the way you have planned.Always remember you grow when you except your flaws.

Learn to say NO : You will love yourself more when you set limits or say no to the work, love or activities that deplete or harm you physically, mentally,emotionally or spiritually.Saying No is better , rather than saying Yes and doing the things unwillingly.

Stop comparing yourself : Comparison kills the habit of self-love.Many times we take our greatest flaws and compare them to someone else's greatest success.Instead,realize that you write your own story.You cannot compare your life to someone else's because no matter how well you know them ,you never know how they feel or how they perceive their life.Intead you need to spend your time and energy to nourish and build your path.

Self-love is not a luxury , rather than its a necessity in today's society. So start implementing some of these practices today and most importantly have compassion with yourself when you fall short.
                    "Please take the responsibility for the energy you bring into 
                                                            this world. "